Is there space within this relationship? ~ Eckhart Tolle

Is there space within this relationship?

Eckhart Tolle on the transcendental dimension of true love.

Summary and notes from Eckhart TV (YouTube) by Erin Reese

Image: Alex Grey

True love is transcendental (transparent). If the formless is not recognized, there can be no transcendental dimension (shining beyond) and there can be no true love.

Moving out of personal love.

Falling in love with the form [of a person] can only be a personal (subject/object) relationship, which can only change due to the nature of Reality (= impermanence).

There IS only change. If the transcendental dimension is not recognized there can be no impersonal love. If you only have egos interacting, a lot of unhappiness is there without the transcendental shining through. No matter how close the bonds are, it can only be a form of suffering. Sometimes the other dimension of transcendence comes through - a glimpse, e.g. perhaps you are about to break up and there, it becomes apparent.

SPACE is the keyword.

SPACE is the keyword. If all you have is thoughts and emotions, occasionally you are okay but then you just get tired; there is a continuum of stuff, stuff – so much stuff, it never ends!

Personal affinities between two individuals are there, yes, but these are never ultimately fulfilling and more often a source of suffering. The key is space and from there you move into the transcendence [recognition of the formlessness; transparency].

How does the transcendental dimension come into relationships? By being spacious with the other. Access the stillness while you look and experience the other. Any thought or emotion becomes unimportant.

A mantra could be: Is there space within this relationship?

Awareness. Stillness. Aliveness. A space. 

Image: Alex Grey