Full Moon in Gemini: Liberated Relationship

"I hold this to be the highest task of a bond between two people: that each should stand guard over the solitude of the other."

~ Rainer Maria Rilke

Ibejí twins,Yoruba Orisha, early 20th Century
Twins, Duality, Joy, Mischief, Abundance, Children

Today, we welcome the Full Moon in the mutable air sign of Gemini, The Twins. The mercurial Twins represent Duality, the self and other in constant conversation. This is not the “we-ness” of Libra, not the balancing of harmony, peace and collaboration, partnership and committed contracts, no. Gemini is cheekier and punchier, symbolizing a face-off of ideas. Here we have the counterpoint, the expression of opposites, the to-and-fro dance of energies that make up the universe.

We know the buzz of Gemini energies holding forth in writing, speaking, networking, media. We hear of the Twins’ spread of information, studies, learning and teaching. But we don’t often focus on the tension that impish Gemini energy poses. One doesn’t have to be an actual Gemini to feel this; it is an inherent part of the human condition. And during full moon in Gemini season, the height of the Western world’s craze for the holidays, we have the possibility for stress and conflict.

Nowhere is this more obvious than our closest relationships – between friends and family members, for sure. And the utmost: intimate partnership, marriage, romantic companionship. You’ll notice Gemini when that feeling of sibling rivalry emerges – poking or questioning, subtle one-upmanship, pulling rank, jockeying for position. You say tomato, I say tomahto. You say light, I say shadow. You need to be close, I need to breathe.

It is time for Liberated Relationship.

In liberated relationship, it is critical to grow to a level of spiritual maturity in which we understand that healthy relatedness must contain the care of the soul of the other, to protect the other’s solitude. And if this sets off one’s fear of abandonment or loneliness – therein lies the work.

For true freedom, one must eventually realize that the Ultimate Resource is the Self, and the Ultimate Relationship is with the Self. Human relationships are fallible, impermanent, relative. They can support our growth in beautiful and striking ways – we can work through our attachment wounds, heal from trauma, and actualize our lives. We can raise children, grow creative projects, and fulfill our heart’s desire. We can have pleasure, adventure, and joyous shared celebration.  And yet, for lasting and unshakable peace, one must come to realize that the Self is beyond time and space, and ultimately it is beyond relationship.

Gemini shows us aspects of the Self by pointing out the opposite. We get glimpses of the Eternal through experiencing the Other. However, it is not the whole picture. If we stay in duality, we stay in suffering. Duality is an appearance, a glimpse of the whole as it arises. 

How does this work in actual day to day living? See if you can find and feel the spaciousness in relationship. Realize you are already free, it is not contingent on the other. Realize that You as Self are Beyond Relationship. This realization sets self and other free.

See what happens next. Do they reenter your story, from moment to moment? A relationship, whether with a friend, family member, or lover, only happens in the Now. It is not in the future, or the past. It is here. The moment there is a clinging to an idea of what it is supposed to look like, how it is going to manifest, you are trapped once again.

Olly olly oxen free! Have courage! Be fiercely loyal, to the Self. This will guarantee that which you are seeking for – That which is eternal. This is the Truth, and it will set you free, no matter what form the relationship appears to be.

An important message to my beloved readers!

My work is changing! As of 2020, I will be shifting the focus of my articles away from astrology and into more on non-dual awakening, embodied liberation, spiritual teachings and intuitive consulting. This will move beyond what appears to be happening in the planetary spheres. Astrology is a useful tool, yet it is not the ultimate resource available to you – That which is beyond time and space. I invite you to join me on the journey – and I’m excited to share with you that my new website is coming very soon!

A finger pointing at the moon is not the moon. The finger is needed to know where to look for the moon, but if you mistake the finger for the moon itself, you will never know the real moon. The teaching is like a raft that carries you to the other shore. The raft is needed, but the raft is not the other shore. An intelligent person would not carry the raft around on his head after making it across to the other shore.  ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Erin Reese is a modern psychic, spiritual teacher, author, and intuitive consultant based in the SF Bay Area. Erin has a Master of Science in Counseling and has been reading the Tarot for over thirty years. She works with clients all over the world.